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Why Women Love bad boys (pg. 6)
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| Gypsy |
| quote: | Originally posted by _EuG_
girls jus want a challange, they wanna be told wat to do and be taken control of ... not be with a sisy guy who is like a puppy |
as a hook initially, yes that works. but after awhile, there needs to be something more to maintain the attraction, like all that relationship junk. a guy who is equal parts reliable friend and scorchin' bed buddy is a keeper. |
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| Beach420 |
| quote: | Originally posted by _EuG_
girls jus want a challange, they wanna be told wat to do and be taken control of ... not be with a sisy guy who is like a puppy |
a challange yes, i think its good to have challanges in a relationship, its what makes it stronger. As for being told what to do and be taken control of...bitch plz! Girls dont wanna be told what to do and be taken control of, thats an extreamly unhealthy relationship. No guy should do that, and no girl should let any guy do that. Relationships should consist of 2 ppl learning and growing together, not one telling the other what to do. One of my best friends dated a guy who took control of her life and told her what to do, and from seeing someone i love go through all the he put her through i will (and i hope no one else will) never put themselves in a position like that. Its unhealthy and completly draining. Controlling boyfriends/girlfriends will never win. I personally take offense to this comment, and hope that if u do have a gf that u take what ive said into some consideration |
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| Spam |
Bad Boys exude confidence and are usually quite funny. Two of the most powerful attractions for women. That's why they like 'em.
The perfect dream-guy for the majority of women is the Nice-Guy-With-An-Edge (NGWAE). The type of guy who'll drive a girl home that's 45 minutes out of his way, and make fun of fat people while smoking a joint on the way ;) Even better if you can get her laughing by making fun of her in a playful way! Some girls are more sensitive about making fun of OTHERS lol, weirdos.
Pure Nice guys have this problem where they're usually trying to impress the girls they like (IOW, put on a fake act hiding who they really are to try and enhance their Nice Guy image when they should really just be themselves), and also try to rush the whole relationship, which really makes the female feel awkward. Some dude she met a week ago declaring his undying love for her probably has some issues he should deal with before getting into a relationship. The question going through her head is "I barely know your name, and you wanna spend the rest of your life with me? Who didn't hug you as a child?" Deperation is a horrible trait.
Nice guys are also very easy for women to control, which doesn't exactly get a girl all hot and bothered. Yes, a guy needs to be caring and kind to a girl, but if she's trying to walk all over the guy, he needs to know when enough is enough and stand up for himself! "No, I will NOT drive 2 hours to your res to drive you to the LCBO to buy alcohol for the party you're going to tomorrow that I'm not invited too!"
Nice guys also make themselves way too available as a friend, when really they just want to date the girl. Only make friends with a girl if you're ok with NEVER going out with her within the context of a relationship. If you are a Nice Guy, and being 'just friends' is not enough for you, you need to dissapear for at least 2-6 months if you hear any of the following phrases used in reference to you, and you still want a chance to start a relationship:
He's a nice guy
He's such a good friend
He's like a brother to me
I can talk to him about anything
He's the only guy that really understands me (as opposed to her bad-ass boyfriend who could care less)
As for the women. They're usually so busy jumping straight from bad ass to bad ass to be picky enough to pick up the proper NGWAE. Girls also tend to get clingy, so their ultra-badass b/f that makes them miserable is the same guy they keep turning to when they feel like dirt, and then they get stuck in that cycle for years (The term, battered wife syndrome, comes to mind).
I guess my point is, learn to be picky, and make sure you really want to be with the person you're currently crushing on, otherwise it's just an excuse to have sex with them until someone better comes along. |
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| Spam |
| quote: | Originally posted by Beach420
a challange yes, i think its good to have challanges in a relationship, its what makes it stronger. As for being told what to do and be taken control of...bitch plz! Girls dont wanna be told what to do and be taken control of, thats an extreamly unhealthy relationship. No guy should do that, and no girl should let any guy do that. Relationships should consist of 2 ppl learning and growing together, not one telling the other what to do. One of my best friends dated a guy who took control of her life and told her what to do, and from seeing someone i love go through all the he put her through i will (and i hope no one else will) never put themselves in a position like that. Its unhealthy and completly draining. Controlling boyfriends/girlfriends will never win. I personally take offense to this comment, and hope that if u do have a gf that u take what ive said into some consideration |
You can only be controlled if you allow a person control you. Maybe he's a dick, or a jerk, or whatever, but he didn't 'put her through' anything. She let him, it's a two-way street, and if she didn't like it, she shoulda broke up with the jerk.
Secondly, I think you took his comment too seriously, I don't think he literally meant control. I think it was just a quick post to make a quick point. Girls DO want a challenge, how many door-mats have you ever been attracted to in your life? A guy who lets you walk all over them is not a guy you want to spend the rest of your life with. It gets boring, it gets frustrating having to fight his battles for him, and what a person really needs in a partner is someone with a strong personality, who helps cover your own weaknesses.
For example, say you avoid confrontation at all costs. This is not a good thing in life, sometimes you NEED to stand up for yourself. When looking for a good guy to have a relationship with, one of the things you'd look for is whether he's afraid to back down from a confrontation when he knows he's in the right. If he's not afraid to stand up for himself (and you, I should add), that's one checkmark on the list :) |
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| DiskoBiskit |
wow. your deep for someone so young. I think I may love you. lol
English Rach - check this dude out. He communicates well. :) |
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| dallastar |
Deep Thoughts
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Spam
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thanks for all that!;) ;) |
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| starsearcher |
Here's what women really want according to Giles Coren of the British GQ
| quote: | | "What women want is a tall, rich, good-looking, ideally famous man with a big who is comfortable talking about his feelings." |
(Taken slightly out of context of an absolutely hillarious article) |
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| dallastar |
| quote: | Originally posted by starsearcher
Here's what women really want according to Giles Coren of the British GQ
(Taken slightly out of context of an absolutely hillarious article) |
sounds funny - link?
p.s. Every "Good Guy" is a "Bad Boy" til he finds the "Right Woman". |
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| Spam |
| quote: | Originally posted by DiskoBiskit
wow. your deep for someone so young. I think I may love you. lol
English Rach - check this dude out. He communicates well. :) |
And I'm sexy to boot!
I'm also 'wicked cool', according to my current love-interests friends who I just met last week ;)
You know you're doing SOMETHING right when the friends are on your side, lol! |
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| starsearcher |
| quote: | Originally posted by dallastar
sounds funny - link?
p.s. Every "Good Guy" is a "Bad Boy" til he finds the "Right Woman". |
No link it's in the print version only |
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| FunkyCrew |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spam
And I'm sexy to boot!
I'm also 'wicked cool', according to my current love-interests friends who I just met last week ;)
You know you're doing SOMETHING right when the friends are on your side, lol! |
you def deserve a hug next time we meet :D well said! |
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