|Here are some CRITICAL REFRAMES which will help you understand why|
women who MAKE UP THEIR OWN MINDS about with whom to have sex, and
for what reasons, ARE ACTUALLY PREFERABLE ... so when you take
these concepts to heart, and bring them up with women, you help
EMANCIPATE them !
All women who have sex are either "sluts" or "whores" in our
society. (NOT by my reckoning ! By SOCIETY'S !)
Initially, I didn't understand it. When I was a boy, I mistakenly
believed that the trade of security and support for sex (or at
least, the promise of exclusive access), which I observed going on
in all the nuclear families around me as "marriage," was entirely
unrelated to prostitution.
Then I heard countless mothers angrily telling their daughters not
to have sex unless they were being paid, or at least had the
promise of security and support from the man who wanted to have sex
with them. Otherwise, they would be "giving themselves away for
nothing," and that would PROVE that "they had no self-respect !"
They would therefore never be able to convince a man that they were
worth paying for.
So I accepted those crazy notions as axiomatic: that women MUST be
paid for their sex, whether they had one client, or many.
THEN I listened to older men telling younger men (when the younger
men insisted, "I would never PAY for sex !") that every man pays
for sex, but outside of marriage / long term relationships, they
usually GET the sex they pay for ...
I considered all the girls I knew who would go to bed with a guy
because he took them out for dinner and a show, or because he
promised to take them out of town for a weekend, or because the guy
would provide valuable services like fixing their car, or filing
their taxes, or because the guy bought them jewels, liquor,
cocaine, or whatever ... and I realized WHY I was having so much
difficulty rationalizing the difference between these girls and
"whores" who would go to bed with men for cash. The reason I
couldn't recognize the difference was simple: there is no
And suddenly, I realized that the fabric of society, the basis for
all the lies, misunderstandings, and foolish choices, all came down
to that critical faulty-logic: that women believe their VALUE is
only demonstrable through the quality of man they can convince to
PURCHASE them; and that the only way to demonstrate that value is
to admit to a small number (ideally, ZERO) of previous sexual
partners, so that the man can believe that kids she gives birth to
are actually HIS kids. (This explains why virginity is so highly
prized, despite its ensuring that the woman will not be skilled, or
even necessarily interested in sex !)
So, from there it was a very simple, inescapable logical step to
recognizing that OUR SOCIETY INSISTS: ANY WOMAN WHO HAS SEX TO SUIT
HERSELF, for her own pleasure, without concern for the promise of
security and support, is to be branded a "Slut," and socially
outcast and condemned; whereas any woman who makes men PAY for sex
(or at least, makes them imply that they will ultimately pay) IS
socially acceptable. Naturally, the ones who can get a man to
formally commit to paying forever, by having him legally purchase
(marry) her have much higher status than the ones who get paid less
It's CRITICAL to remember that virtually all women are RAISED to
charge for their sexual services. When a mother tells her daughter,
"If you give away the milk, no one will buy the cow !" she's really
saying, "Don't you forget, I raised you to be a whore ! (NOT a
Likewise, their fathers tell them: "I don't want you spending time
with that Kevin boy ... he just wants to get into your pants ! Why
don't you go connect with Thomas over there ... he has his own
business, and he'll be a good provider and father for your
children, and he'll take care of you ! (Because don't ever forget,
we raised you to be a whore !)"
Women are RAISED never to undercut The Sexual Cartel ... an
unspoken understanding amongst all women to ensure that men will
support them and their offspring by convincing men that SEX CAN
ONLY BE AVAILABLE AT A COST ... and that the dearer the cost, the
more valuable the sex.
This is to convince men that THEIR CHILDREN ARE THEIR OWN,
"Son, I KNOW you're my child, (despite the fact that we don't look
anything alike) because YOUR MOTHER WAS A "GOOD GIRL." She didn't
sleep with me until our fourth date ! And hell, she doesn't even
LIKE sex, we practically never had it once we got married !"
Women who have sex BECAUSE THEY WANT TO, with whomever they choose,
without the promise of a "commitment," (or any other direct or
promised compensation) are condemned socially and branded as
"sluts:" THE most derogatory word any woman can be called,
PARTICULARLY by another woman. When a man calls a woman a slut, he
is saying "She's having more sex than I want her to !" But when a
WOMAN calls another woman a slut, it means, "She's a traitor to her
gender ! She's GIVING AWAY what I MUST SELL and lowering my value !
She's a scab ! She's undercutting The Cartel !"
Once you personally become comfortable with this, your
NON-JUDGMENTAL ACCEPTANCE of women, along with your appreciation of
the unjust nature of the persecution and disrespect Sex Symbols and
female public figures have had to endure, will make you invaluable
to such women ! They are DESPERATELY SEEKING a man who won't judge
them, won't disapprove of them, and will gladly lead them into
adventures & excitement with the security of having his protection
(real or imagined !)
so, there you go.