|Originally posted by EgosXII |
these were both an extension of my suggestion that not worrying about physical appearances as much led to betterment of inner self
if you feel all happy because you are loved, and insecurities are removed, or limited, there is much more room and time for open communication + betterment of yo'self, even if you put on a little bit of love-fat
the extended point was: We all have limited time: Comes down to value:
you think physical appearance is better, and i think most insecure people do, which is why they spend a lot of time thinking, and acting on improving that area of themselves...
when you get more secure, ostensibly through a relationship, you're able to place aside the concerns of the physical realm and focus on bettering your internal realm (so, in answer, yes relationships make you strive to be better, just not to look better since appearances are merely superficial means for ATTRACTING mates, not KEEPING them!)...
faux zen statements and wankery intentionally used if you're wondering
edit: Again, its all fairly confused since there's all levels of fat, and there's all levels of health and none of these have been defined... arguing's always fun though aint it
I'm not really sure why you continue to preach all this shit at me like I don't already know that. One, you have turned what I initially said into something so far from what I meant, so it's no use carrying on. I stand by my original statement. Two, I'm 30 years old - I've lived enough experiences to know what matters in life (in fact I learned that many years ago, probably earlier than most people realize it). Three, I've been in a relationship with someone for 12 years - I know what's important in love.