|Originally posted by squirrelly |
I do understand the problem with sleeping with people you really don't want to because of alcohol or whatever the factor may be that renders you into making horrible decisions.
Eh, I have no problems not sleeping with people I don't want to sleep with because I don't respect them. With her it's just a little bit complicated because I used to respect her for the person that she was as opposed to the person that she's become.
That post right there however, just left me in a position of being utterly terrified. At the end of June, he's going on a little four day vacation to another city. A person who lives in that particular city, is his ex girlfriend. Now, she has become nothing other than an absolute whore. (Literally, it is well known she has been paid for sex) However, she still calls. Often. At first I wasn't worried because when I'm around my ex boyfriend I realize that I have no intentions of ever getting back together with him for I am simply not attracted to him any longer and too much went wrong. However, that post just made me realize that all those times I've seen my ex, I've been sober. Lord knows what I would have done if I was drunk, or messed up otherwise. It made me realize just how much he'll be drinking while he's there. This can't/won't be good.
Sorry . If it makes you feel any better, our situations are completely different. I don't have a SO right now. I don't even have anyone I'm remotely interested in. If I was with someone I actually cared about, not even the sweetest ambrosia (jaeger? ) could convince me to hurt someone like that. Even they never found out, I couldn't respect myself. So if you have a good feel on the guy, trust in your instincts (assuming your instincts are generally good). Don't second guess him based upon other peoples' experiences.
However, I have been there before, and I'm sorry that that happened. She doesn't want anything more than that one time does she? One wanting something more and one not brings nothing but problems... I'm a prime example. How long did you two date? A long time, no?
We dated for 4 years. She doesn't want anything more than random casual hookups when she needs to get laid. I'm looking for a relationship that will lead to something. Personally, I'd rather have sex with myself than send my dick to a youth hostel .
I'm not jumping to any conclusions. I actually know exactly where he stands, and that's perhaps why this is so frustrating. The fact that I DO know what he's doing, and I DO know what all of this means, and it's just frustrating that he cannot just let go of the past and move on with the future. I am not his ex girlfriend, and I will never be like her. She broke his heart, and he's refusing to mend it. In the end, he's no better than her, however, for he hurts others (i.e. me) as he goes along with life as well.
Yea excess baggage definetely sucks for the third party. I've decided it will never become an issue for me. I will always care about my ex and be there for her as much as I can, but I refuse to let her stand in the way of bigger and better things for me. After all, things didn't work out for a reason right?
Very true. Maybe it's this damn city, everyone that lives in Orlando seems to be incapable of having a healthy, fun, and lasting relationship. I'm tired of the mind games, I'd much perfer it if people would just turn in their cowardly ways for one night and found the courage to admit the way they really feel. But you see, right there I am being a hypocrite, for I, myself, am nothing other than a coward.
Eh, love is cowardices' bedfellow. As for Orlando, how many times have I told you to come to DC???
Last edited by occrider on Jun-05-2005 at 07:39