|Originally posted by DJ RANN |
Wait, do you (even) produce (bro)? Why are you never in the production forum? Come on over!
Tbh, you sound like a great Dad, prolly better than a lot of biological fathers I know.
With your Daughter, hire the best fucking lawyer you can, someone who knows the DA and Sheriff and get them to drop it or reduce that to something like a ticket or community service . Don't let some dumb shit she did when she was 16 put a permanent mark on her record or fuck her up further, meaning it'll pop up whenever there's a background search. She may need security clearance one day or have to work with a government agency and this like this can be an enduring cockblock.
we all did dumb shit at that age. I dodged several bullets like that when i was doing stupid stuff but I had friends who didn't get lucky, and one of them really fucked up his entire life all stemming from an event way less of a deal that what your daughter got up to.
the penal system here in the states doesn't turn people around, it messes them up more so keep her out of it if you can.
I know both the man likely to be the judge and the man over the juvenile proceedings. We spoke with the latter yesterday, and he is confident that the "theft over $1000" (a Class E felony, I think) will be changed to "joyriding". I don't want one incident to fuck up life, believe me. I love her, even though for she has put us through hell since the middle of May, making one poor choice after another, finally escalating to this. No one is a perfect teen. Hell, I wasn't a perfect teen. And, as I have told her many, many times...I do NOT expect HER to be a perfect teen. However, what I do expect is for her to exercise due diligence in decision making. She has been raised to know the difference between right and wrong. She KNOWS the difference between right and wrong. I'm not going into the details here, as many of them are VERY personal. But suffice to say, this latest incident is just the latest culmination in a series of poor/rebellious acts since the middle of May. And, through each one, we have stuck with her. The last thing I did last night was to walk into her room, hug her, and tell her that I do, in fact, love her and always will. FFS, she's my daughter (as much as she can be). Going back to the charges, I, too, don't want this to mark her for life. What I DO want, however, is for THIS to finally, finally get her full, undivided attention. Based on some of the stuff we've found her posting, this could have EASILY been a situation where she attempted the same while high and/or intoxicated...and maybe injured or killed someone. And, as I explained to her, THAT scenario would have her looking at years, maybe a quarter of her life, rather than just weeks or months. I will close by saying that if this incident does NOT get her full, undivided attention...then she has a potentially short, legal drama/pained filled life ahead of her. Something NONE of us want for her.
Finally, I didn't start this thread to be a debate/hate thread about biological parents vs. step parents. It just time for the usual "Friday" thread, and I had a crazy story to share, for a change. I understand the early assumption by Orangesto that it was just a stereotypical "oh, step dads/parents are just out to be dicks to their step kids because they're not really THEIR kids" scenario, but the truth is that is not even a remote possibility here. I would not have married their mother if I (and we) were not prepared to treat both girls as if they were mine.
Thanks for listening.