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Silky Johnson
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Our home was already pretty kid proof to begin with. Drawers/cupboards/storage for pretty much everything, and we don't have clutter. All we really had to do was put some rubber protectors around hazardous edges of a few things, and I covered the front of our entertainment stand with black mesh (it actually looks good/not shitty at all, hah). Our entire living room is her "yes" zone. We put baby gates at both openings so she can safely play alone if I have to be in the kitchen or whatever.
Oh yeah, and covers on the outlets of course. We have a couple lamp cords visible but she hasn't been interested in those... yet, lol.
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Oct-19-2018 15:37
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Silky Johnson
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quote: | Originally posted by Zak McKracken
By reading here it looks like kids is like cats, wild untamable animals that climb on curtains, piss everywhere and bite on all your power cables and chargers? I thought kids were more like dogs, in the way that if you make rules and stand by them they follow and are happy with it? Or is it just the new parenting guideline allowing your little devils eveything compared to when we were young resulting in free and creative minds? At least this is my impression when I see families at restaurants lately. Every fucking place have turned into a macdonalds playground. And these monsters are to take care of us when we grow old and sick? Still not decided on getting one of these lol, but I’m seriously bored at this age so why not, maybe I can teach him to dj a lot earlier than I did myself and he can succeed where I failed lol. Meanwhile I can finaly get back to LEGO. |
It's really important for a child's development to be able to explore and play freely/without constantly being told "no." This doesn't mean it's a total free for all and they can do whatever they want wherever they want, it just means they can have a safe place to play and use their imagination. Unstructured play is the best thing for their developing minds, and helps to foster their sense of confidence/security.
And yes, boundaries and limit setting are clearly important, but they also have to be age appropriate. We're talking about infants/toddlers here. Heh.
No, kids are not like dogs lol Jesus. But the way many people raise/talk to their kids, you'd think so. 
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Oct-19-2018 16:27
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DJ RANN
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quote: | Originally posted by Zak McKracken
By reading here it looks like kids is like cats, wild untamable animals that climb on curtains, piss everywhere and bite on all your power cables and chargers? I thought kids were more like dogs, in the way that if you make rules and stand by them they follow and are happy with it? Or is it just the new parenting guideline allowing your little devils eveything compared to when we were young resulting in free and creative minds? At least this is my impression when I see families at restaurants lately. Every fucking place have turned into a macdonalds playground. And these monsters are to take care of us when we grow old and sick? Still not decided on getting one of these lol, but I’m seriously bored at this age so why not, maybe I can teach him to dj a lot earlier than I did myself and he can succeed where I failed lol. Meanwhile I can finaly get back to LEGO. |
Seriously.
There's this "hands off" thing that I find absolutely bonkers and they give you all this claptrap about "personal development" and "allowing your child to express itself".
It does not need to express itself by shitting and pissing anywhere it wants or not shutting the fuck up in a public place. It's this bizarre combination of basically no discipline and allowing your kids to do whatever the fuck it wants in the name of not "limiting" it, yet these are the types that won't allow their kid to walk to school and brand those that do as "free range parents".
I had a healthy amount of boundaries and it made me respect my parents. I see parents doing this "never tell your child off" and "never say no" approach and know that their kid is going to be like fuck those idiots the moment it has free thought, circa 13.
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Oct-19-2018 17:46
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Silky Johnson
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Bahahaha! Just have to remember that your child literally does not know what we know, and our job is to help them navigate and manage their emotions and behaviour. I think adults have way too high of expectations of young children (expecting them to just obey like dogs, ahem), and the better you understand where their brain is actually at at each developmental stage, the better you can help them not act like a fucking asshole, lol. At the very least that knowledge will allow you to be more patient/not lose it when your kid is doing something that is completely appropriate/expected for their age.
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Oct-19-2018 19:34
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Silky Johnson
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To add to that, the goal is to teach your kid how to behave without constantly being micromanaged by an adult with the stops, nos, and don'ts, etc. The older they get, the better they will (should) be able to self regulate. Consistently enforced age appropriate limits. Etc.
I dunno, I don't think it's complicated, but to raise a well behaved kid who isn't an annoying dickhead definitely requires diligent engagement and no short cuts.
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Oct-19-2018 19:49
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Silky Johnson
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Lol Youtube vids!! Re: communication, teach her some basic sign language! We have been signing since she was about 6/7 months old and it's helped immensely. More, all done, water, milk, drink, help, change, eat, snack, hello, goodbye, bed time, sleep, I love you, medicine are all signs she understands, though she can only sign a handful of them herself.
www.babysignlanguage.com
There is a dictionary and vids showing how to do each sign.
I agree discipline definitely is common sense. If you are interested, two awesome books are The Whole Brain Child, and No Drama Discipline. Both basically break down what goes on in children's brains when they are "acting up" and how you can engage with them effectively when it's happening.
Edit: one tip that will make your life easier is, kids naturally want to please their parents. So instead of saying "no" to behaviours you don't want them doing, rephrase it into a behaviour you DO want them doing/one that is acceptable. Young kids don't really understand no for the sake of no, and it doesn't give them any guidance as to what they SHOULD be doing. That's why you see the same shitty kids constantly being yelled at "No!", because their parents haven't given them any clue what their "yes" behaviours are. Like, no? Ok what then?
Also, ultimately the strongest factor in how a kid behaves is what they see their parents doing. You can tell them til you're blue in the face what you want them to do, but if you aren't modeling those same things it's gonna be an uphill battle. Monkey see, monkey do for reals. This is really true for things like manners, especially.
Totally obvious shit, but clearly common sense is not common because look at all the assholes around these days. Lol.
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Oct-19-2018 20:28
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Silky Johnson
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Yeah just started walking this week!
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Oct-19-2018 22:14
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